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“Identify the problems”- 15 January 2017

Written by Rita Aggarwal
Sunday, 22 January 2017 19:34


Q. I am an engineering student in final year and have developed an interest in journalism. Today I read your article about the person who was confused about journalism, and I want to talk to him. I have talked to many journalists but I think this person will give me a better idea of what to do as a story explained by a successful person is good but someone who has gone through the same experience will be able to guide you better. If that person is interested kindly give my email address to him and he can email me. Thanks.

Ans. I’m publishing your request in the column in the hope that the person who wrote the letter in the last column would read your query and write to us. If he shows interest in talking to you we will forward your email address to him. Since all letters received by us are private and confidential in nature we cannot take the liberty of providing email addresses and contact numbers on our own. Your letter is being printed for the simple reason that many such readers like you want to connect to the people who write to us in this column. This is a general norm we follow to maintain confidentiality.


Q. One of my nieces is quite a good singer. In fact she used to sing in group competitions representing her school, but once she went for a solo competition and she could not perform well. I feel like her confidence has gone down because of that. Now I want to help her get back on stage but she is not ready to yet. I think she is scared. Please help me get her confidence back and get her back on stage too.

Ans.  As you say your niece is a good singer and has taken part in group competitions before, so there shouldn’t be much of a problem if we can just get her confidence back and give her the practice she needs. She is still very young and has a long way to go before she can become a professional singer. It is good in a way that she has already taken part in solo competitions. This will help her know what her mistakes were the previous time and work towards improving herself. In order to help her out you can start by joining her up for classes with a professional singing teacher. They will help her train her voice and give her proper advice as to what to do. But first you need to know if you want her to be a professional singer or just sing at an amateur level. If u want her to be a professional it will take several years of training as no one becomes a professional over night. However if you want her to just learn at an amateur level, then you can just join her up for classes for about a few months or a year. Also make sure that your support for her is always strong through it all.


Q. I am a CA student but have completed my education from a small town. I don’t have a good command over English. How can I improve myself? Can you help me with some tips please?

Ans. Nowadays there is a big mental block where the “English” language is concerned. English is just like any other language be it Hindi, Marathi, etc. To learn to speak English you first need to get it out of your head that you can’t speak well in English. This is the very first thing you need to do. Now in order to get over your fear of speaking or writing English you should try these tips. Firstly you should buy books on vocabulary development and try to learn at least 5 new words a day. Secondly you should read the newspaper aloud and underline and try to find the meanings of words you do not understand. You could also choose any topic and write a small essay or paragraph on said topic to help improve your English. You could always join English speaking classes as well. This will help you improve your English tremendously.


Q. I need your help madam. Will you be kind to please listen to my problems?

Ans. Kindly elaborate your problem as I will not be able to give you any advice if I do not know the problem I am dealing with. Sometimes when you are not able to identify and define your own problem then it is advisable to pay a visit. A session of counselling will help identify the nature of your problems and we could provide solutions too. Do not hesitate.


“Enhancing knowledge is critical to growth”- 8 January 2017.

Written by Rita Aggarwal
Sunday, 08 January 2017 19:52


Q. I wanted to do a creative job after my 12 Std but my parents did not support me because all my cousins are engineers and doctors, they forced me too to appear in engineering entrance exams. Luckily, I cleared it and got admission in one of the reputed engineering colleges. But in spite of all hard work I could clear my papers in semester exams and then I quit it after third year. After that despite my parents’ reservations I did my graduation in journalism and mass communication and landed my job. My problem is that I have started my journalism career little bit late and still struggling to make my successful position in it and this made me depressed. Secondly I wanted to do MBA in media in popular business school. Although in MBA there is not age bar but many career consultants and MBA trainer told me you have crossed the age of admission in MBA. At the age of 32 can I try my goal in higher education. Please help me. I need your suggestion.

Ans. You can try your goal in higher education even at the age of 62! There is no age bar for education which is to be encouraged in any case and not discouraged. My friend did law after his retirement! The course in media management will surely help you in boosting your career. Never get depressed even if you are a late starter in the field. People may start late but they can zoom in their careers if they are effective and follow the right principles. Many people are switching their careers midway as they realise their interests and passions and go for it. So follow your instincts and go for it. Do not give way and do not stop midway. Continuous education and enhancement of knowledge is a must for mental growth and progress in career.


Q. I am a final year student and I have started writing some poems in English and Hindi. Can you suggest me how can I get them published in newspapers? I do not know how and where to send them.

Ans. The editor of the newspaper or of the magazine section of the specific newspaper is in-charge of such news items. The newspaper has its email address printed below where you can send your mails and contributions to them. Sometimes a specific email address is given for contributors to send their features/creative expressions in the magazine section. Look for that email address and send it across. If that does not work then a trip to the newspaper office to meet the concerned person will surely help. Keep trying and do not give up.


Q. I am working as a teacher. After studying your column in The Hitavada, I am very much encouraged and enthusiastic to learn psychology subject and enrolled myself for M.A Psychology as a private candidate. After going through two practical workshops and discussion with peers and professors I am not getting any clue to get good English medium books. Could you please help me identify some best written book name and authors on the subject which can be purchased through website. Please guide me to learn and understand the subject to my best of capability.


Ans. There are numerous books on psychology and its specialisations in English language. There are good textbooks that would be appropriate and suitable for the course content. The course content is generally specific to the university and is set by them and therefore they are the best persons to guide you for the prescribed books. Remember one book on any specialisation may not be sufficient but could be adequate enough. Supposing you have a paper on Industrial psychology or abnormal psychology, then you will have to search for a good textbook on that subject which may cover many chapters related to that field. First study your syllabus and the search the net for textbooks on psychology for that subject specialisation. Another way could be to visit the university library or a college library of the department of psychology and take help from the librarian on the prescribed textbooks for different papers of psychology. You can also visit the university department of psychology which has its own library too. This search will help you understand the field of psychology and its education.

“Accept joys and sorrows as gifts of God”- 1 January 2017.

Written by Rita Aggarwal
Tuesday, 03 January 2017 23:35


Q: Respected ma’am, I am a commerce student. My parents recently got divorced and it has affected me to a great extent. I was always very close to both my parents and them separating has put me into a state of depression. I don’t want to talk to anyone and I don’t feel like eating anything. Whenever someone tries to talk to me I just give them back a rude answer or ignore then entirely. I am so angry with my patents because I don’t know what made them separate. One day we are a happy family the next they are telling me that are getting divorced. I can’t even have a proper conversation with them without crying or shouting. All I want to do is cry and sleep all day. Please help me out.

Ans: This is an unfortunate situation. It is traumatic for children when parents divorce. As a child you are right in stating that you feel close to both of them and their separation has hurt you a lot. You should maintain a good relationship with both of them separately. It would be advisable not to take sides and try not to get involved in the conflict. Since both are dear to you and both treat you well, stay connected to both of them. You will have to accept this reality soon enough. Since you are in college you have your career in mind and then your own personal life to look forward to. So focus on your own life and leave the details of your parents to them to handle.  If you look back, I am sure you hated the strife and the constant quarrels and fights at home. When conflicts between couples become a chronic condition, at times, divorce seems the only way out. Constant fighting does no good to either person and so they must have decided to say quits to their marriage. However as a child of theirs enjoy the company of both parents separately and do not try to interfere too much. Stop crying and stop shouting at them or others and keep your mind calm on the contrary. If both of them feel peaceful and settled living separately then so be it. Remember they will always be there for you in all situations and will help you always. That is a big enough assurance for you to carry on your life.


Q: I am a teacher. My engagement was fixed for the 21st of November but it was broken off by the boys side just a week before that. I don’t know what the problem was. They did not even give a proper reason. I have been so upset because of this. I even tried to take my life. My family too blames me for what happened. I don’t know what to do ma’am. I am so depressed. Everyone is against me. Please tell me what to do.

Ans: Such improper things keep happening all the time. That it has happened to you is your bad luck. Courtesy demands that they should have broken it off with some reason and explanation and made it a decent break off. Each one has the right to choose and not to choose his mate. This fickle minded behaviour speaks about the attitudes and culture about the boy and his family. If you are looking for reasons for the breakup there could be many reasons and in your case it could be something which they were not able to communicate to you. They did not have the guts to tell you the truth. Knowing the reason will not make a difference to your life. The fact remains that your engagement is off and you have lost the relation that was to be. I do not understand why your family should blame you for whatever happened when you are actually innocent and also uninformed about the main reason. Instead your family should support you in such times and cheer you up. It is certainly not the end of the world and you will get a better match for yourself. Never try to end your life for such silly reasons for you are not at fault at all and why should you punish yourself for the fault of someone else. Be brave and bold and face life squarely. Come what may –joys and sorrows, also accept it as a gift of God. We realise the value of the gift afterwards.


"Rejection is part of life" -18 December 2016.

Written by Rita Aggarwal
Thursday, 29 December 2016 19:22


Q: I am a 1st year B.A. student. I was always more on the chubby side from when I was young. But of late I have put on even more weight. This has caused my self-confidence to go down tremendously. I don’t like going out and interacting with people because I always feel like they are judging me and talking about me behind my back. I know that it’s probably not even true but I can’t help feeling this way. I have no confidence at all and that only makes me feel depressed all the time. Please help me.

Ans: It would help to know the reasons for your growing weight so that you could check it in a proper manner. Is it due to excessive intake of food, or lack of exercise, or imbalance in hormones, or depression due to an unpleasant event has to be looked into. Once the cause is identified it will be relatively easy to check it and control it. Meanwhile try not to think negatively about it as you have been chubby since childhood and many kids are like that. Our image about our body is an important part of confidence and it has to be positively thought about and accepted as it is. Whatever may be the type of body given to us by God it has to be accepted whole heartedly in a happy way. Never compare yourself to others and never think ill of your body aspects. Be proud of yourself for what is more important is your nature, your overall personality and your achievements. What is given to you is not in your control but what you do with it is your choice. So cheer up, take care of yourself and be happy.


Q: I am a 12th std student. I choose to do science in junior college because I got a low percentage in my 10th boards and wanted to prove myself to everyone. However now I am not able to cope with the studies. The boards are really close and I’m stressing out a lot. I keep getting sick because I work myself up too much and then I fall back in my studies again. At the rate I’m going I don’t even know if I will be able to give my exams. I’ve been missing my tuitions as well. My parents are also getting worried because of me and I don’t want to stress them out. They have expectations from me which I don’t know if I’ll be able to live up to, which makes me even more upset. Please tell me what to do ma’am.

Ans: You made a wrong choice of taking science without testing and understanding your abilities and now you feel stressed out with your studies. Perhaps you should have taken humanities or commerce and not science. The best alternative is to appear for your 12 Std examinations to the best of your capacity and then choose the best career option for you after that. You can always change your stream of studies at this juncture before you get into college education. An aptitude test along with career guidance will help make the best choice for you that will ensure success and happiness. Making a wrong choice is painful which leads to frustration and negativity. For the moment the best thing to do is to not bother about your levels of percentage but to aim to pass the examinations so that you do not lose a year. So drop your stress levels, relax and aim low. Then plan properly for the undergraduate programme. Do not worry. Life throws up endless opportunities to make a good life.


Q: Hello ma’am, I am doing B.Sc 2nd year. I really like this girl. We have been really close friends from when we were small. Our families too are very close to one another. Two months ago I finally had the courage to go up to her and tell her how I felt. However she turned me down saying that she did not see me that way. I still went after her trying to convince her to go out with me. She got annoyed with me following her around and told her friends who don’t even allow me to go near her now. I thought that at least now I would try to get over her if she is not interested. But how am I supposed to do that when we are always meeting due to our families being so close. She ignores me entirely and it hurts. How am I supposed to forget a person whom i have loved for most of my life. I am so depressed because of all of this. Please help me out ma’am.

Ans: This is an unfortunate situation. When you knew she had no such feelings for you, you should not have allowed your feelings to grow and develop to this intensity. Even now your mind is in your control and you can swing out of this emotion of love. Treat it as a pleasant fantasy and nothing more than that for the reality is different. She may never like you the way you do. So turn your mind away from her and engage it in other things. Rejection is part of life and should not be looked as a failure of some sort but just as an unfortunate mismatch of things. It keeps happening all the time.


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